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Consensual Sex is Sexy By Lynne Youdin | 19-07-2007 http://www.www.sexyadsnews.com

For all the talk, advice, tips and suggestions that there are out there that help people to meet one another so that in time they can take their interaction to another level, one thing that is often not spoken about is the very clear understanding that when all the people involved in the sex act are willing and wanting to be there, that consensual sex is sexy.

What this means is that we all know that every one of us communicates in different ways about things in general; and about our interests, thoughts and feelings about sex in particular. Whether it's a long-term relationship or a new connection with someone who appears to share the same interests in sex that you do, it is important to be careful not to draw conclusions when communicating with the other person about what they may find consensual.

Considering that men and women often view sex differently, even though a shared interest may have already been expressed in writing, once people are facing one another, it is a wise decision to take some time to check in with your partner and find out a few things. Sexually advanced people know that to inquire of their partner if they are comfortable or asking them what they would like to do next or what they wouldn't, enhances the feelings of comfort and safety and builds intimacy as well as dialogue-another form of sexiness. I know some people may feel awkward in asking questions of their partner, but you needn't feel this way: for this is a normal reaction when trying something new, whether the person with you is new to you also, or even if it's someone you've been with before. I personally don't know a single person who doesn't appreciate someone taking the time to find out what their sexual likes and dislikes are.

In the presence of mutual consent, people feel free to explore and stretch their sexual boundaries. When each person is aware that the other person is aware of them and is respectful of whatever one another's boundaries might be, excitement and enthusiasm begin to grow. Long-held desires, often thought about and suppressed, may find a voice; and different levels of intensity and intimacy are often unexpectedly reached and experienced. People who may have wondered or worried that they were losing passion within themselves frequently astonish themselves in the depth of their feelings and this opens them up to further exploration. There is no underplaying what being open to another's comfort level is when engaged in sexual activity.

Mutual consent is the act of being of the same mind and same intent. It releases stress and takes away obstacles that needn't be there when one is opening one's self up to another. With each person fully aware and actively involved in the other's pleasure, the give-and-take is an experience that in itself arouses further feelings of desire and expression and often, adventure.